To the man who’s just told his 4 year old son ‘shhh big boys don’t cry’ was that really what you wanted to say? I watched as he was running too fast, not looking where he was going and fell on his face, all the other parents turned with concern at his pained wail with the look of ‘do I pick him up?’ that you get these days with a child that doesn’t belong to you. Did you swoop in Superman style, scoop him up, wipe his tears and hug him tight? No, you chose to shout – around a corner might I add ‘shhh big boys don’t cry.’ Maybe you were just embarrassed but there was a bit of an awkward moment where no-one knew where to look because let’s not lie, we were shocked.
Why shouldn’t he cry? He damn well spectacularly face planted. Even the biggest boy would have had a whimper. It obviously hurt, he’s showing emotion. Is it really a good thing that you are in effect telling him he should hide his emotions? To push those feelings away and hide them? Put on a brave face? Will that serve him well as he approaches adulthood?
Should he not play with dolls or push a pushchair just because that would make him too girly? Is he only supposed to play with boy toys because that will make him more manly as he grows up? What if he wanted to try out a girls costume just because he liked the colour or wear a pair of pink play shoes because they make an awesome noise?
Does that go for girls? Are they allowed to have a sob when they graze their knees? Should my daughter not wear her much loved Batman and Spider-Man costumes because that’s just not what big girls do? Should she always wear dresses and have ribbons in her hair?
My son is quite emotional and cries quite easily, should I be telling him to man up and stop the snivelling or should I put an arm around him tell him it’s ok and distract him with something fun to do instead? Will it make him too soft and quick to cry or will it show him it’s ok to be upset but a hug and a kind word can make you feel much better?
Of course I don’t know you and all parents are different and I’m sorry that I wanted to pick your boy up, give him a hug and tell him he was a dafty for running so fast.